Dear Bitchy Lady on the American Airlines Flight from Baltimore to Miami on November 2,
You don’t know me, but just the fact that I’m using the B word to describe you means you suck…big time.
The same day I was leaving for my vacation I found out I was miscarrying. Again. And your attitude while we were boarding made my day worse. So thanks. Thanks a lot for that.
Let me refresh your memory….
B Lady’s Nice Friend: Oh, they’re in Group 3, so they should go ahead of us. We’re Group 4.
B Lady: You’re in Group 3?
Thoughtsy and Kiefer: Yes.
B Lady: Well, I certainly wouldn’t want to cut in front of a Group 3. Oh no! Please go ahead of me, Group 3 people.
Then you repeated that for the next 5 minutes while we waited to board the plane. Boo and Radley were more mature than you.
B Lady, I’m sorry you can’t count. I’m sorry the airline put you in a group behind us. I’m sorry you got in line before your group number was even called.
I’m sorry I didn’t let you go first just to make you feel like an ass. But I was tired and bleeding, and I just wanted to find my seat, go to sleep, and forget that I was miscarrying.
I don’t know what prompted your attitude, but whatever it was, I’m sorry. I hope you’re feeling better today.
You see, I try to be nice to everyone because I know no matter how bad of a day I’m having, someone is having a worse one.
That said, if I ever see you again, I’m punching you in the face.
Insincerely,
Thoughtsy
December 5th, 2012 at 9:19 am
I really don’t understand why some people are so rude, takes nothing to just have common politeness. I’m sorry you had to deal with that with everything you were going through!
December 5th, 2012 at 9:26 am
They’re out there aren’t they – those people who need to be first because they are so much more important than the rest of us. Kill them with kindness – and subtle but pointed comments.
December 5th, 2012 at 9:30 am
So sorry for your loss.
December 5th, 2012 at 9:49 am
Ugh. I hate those people. Yes, hate is a strong word, but I hate them.
Reminds me of time I was waiting to get on the bus to go home and this woman was pushing into me. I suspected that it might not be her, but the man behind her pushing her into me. That was confirmed when I turned my head and asked, “could you please stop pushing.” The man yells, “this is NY!” Seriously? Because we’re in NY, anyone has the right to be a rude a-hole and push into other people?? WTH? If I hadn’t been about to swipe my metrocard, I might have turned around and reached over the woman to punch the guy and say “yeah, you’re right…this is NY.”
Sorry that this happened when you least needed it.
December 5th, 2012 at 9:54 am
An unrelated article on airline a-holes that I thought might make you smile…
http://fancythatfancythis.com/2012/11/27/new-york-new-york/
December 5th, 2012 at 10:02 am
I am sorry, Thoughtsy.
It is too bad more people don’t stop to think about those things–that maybe someone else is going through something that we don’t know about. Sometimes I wonder though if those who are kind are usually the ones who have gone through battles of their own and they know how important it is to be mindful of others.
Thinking of you!
December 5th, 2012 at 10:05 am
Ugh, and at the worst time possible!
She’s definitely the B-word. I don’t know why some people think they’re so much more special than everyone else. Would be awesome if she could read this.
December 5th, 2012 at 10:59 am
In the night of death, hope sees a star, and listening love can hear the rustle of a wing. ~Robert Ingersoll
I’m so sorry for your loss. *hugs*
December 5th, 2012 at 11:12 am
Oh Thoughtsy, how horrid. And I KNOW it’s bad when you use the B word. I mean, I throw that thing around like it’s confetti, but you? Never!
What a horrible experience. I am so sorry you had to deal with that during that time. I would have punched her in the face RIGHT THERE. In fact, lemme know if you ever see her again, and I’ll do it for you!! HUGS.
December 5th, 2012 at 11:21 am
What a bitch. There I said it too!
Hugs Thoughtsy!! I would have punched her for you.
December 5th, 2012 at 11:24 am
Punch her in the bladder, hopefully this will cause her to pee uncontrollably and remind her of her younger years when she would pee her pants in class. This is why she became a bully I am sure of it.
December 5th, 2012 at 11:41 am
Advice from a kickboxer: To throw power into your jab remember that the power comes from your leverage off the floor. So push with your foot and throw your arm straight into her screamer. Hug. (For you.) (Not for her.)
December 5th, 2012 at 12:21 pm
Hugs to you xox
December 5th, 2012 at 1:35 pm
When the B lady comes around, just let her barking go in through one ear and out the other! How dare she!
December 5th, 2012 at 1:40 pm
If you hadn’t been feeling awful (and I am so sorry about that), you might have been able to turn this into a teachable moment to improve the poor woman’s math skills by holding up three fingers to make the concept of 3 more concrete and then inviting her to read between the lines.
Next time.
December 5th, 2012 at 1:55 pm
You were much more polite about it than I would have been, Thoughtsy. I know for a fact I would have poured some gas on that particular fire by loudly proclaiming, “I certainly wouldn’t want to go in front of people that weren’t competent enough to get their act together in time to make Group 3! I certainly wouldn’t want to complain about people with such a sense of entitlement that they expect to butt in front of people who were there first…”
And that would have been my “subtle” approach. But that’s why you’re a much better person than I.
December 5th, 2012 at 2:21 pm
Grrr, use of the B-word is entirely justified here! I hate rudeness! I hope she coincidently comes across this and feels really, really awful!
December 5th, 2012 at 3:00 pm
It’s a shame that you had to deal with that crap to start with, but to deal with it when you were going thru a personal trauma is even worse.
I took my boyfriend’s 7 year old daughter to the washroom at the mall and as we were waiting in line some old B. came in, SHOVED Abby and proceeded to cut in front of us. Then said that Abby was “too stupid” to check under the stalls.
I sent Abby back to her dad and I tracked the woman down and gave her a piece of my mind. In front of a huge crowd I told that woman off! I said her life must be pretty miserable to feel like she needs to get gratification from shoving a 7 year old and calling her stupid.
I hope you have the opportunity to punch that woman. Some people just have nothing better to do.
xoxox.
December 5th, 2012 at 3:17 pm
At least you didn’t have to sit near her on the plane – wait you didn’t have to do that, did you?
December 5th, 2012 at 3:19 pm
Thoughtzarella, I will mind-punch her, too. Just for you. I can’t tell you how much you’ve been on my mind because of your miscarriage. I actually wrote a post about it yesterday. If you get a chance, check it out. You’re so right: everyone is facing their own Goliath. I hope you find peace during your challenge with conceiving.
((hugs))
December 5th, 2012 at 3:24 pm
I hit like a girl, but can I help? Or I could throw my drink in her face. Wait. I’d never waste a drink on her.
December 5th, 2012 at 4:02 pm
What a bitch! Why are people like that? I’ve never really understood. Sorry you had to go through that at such an emotional time, Honey.
December 5th, 2012 at 4:21 pm
WTF? You didn’t even ask to go ahead of her in line. Not only can’t she count to four; she can’t even tell the difference between you and her friend. I hope the person in front of her reclined all the way for the entire trip, the airline lost her luggage, and she got selected for a really invasive TSA search for her connecting flight.
December 5th, 2012 at 6:00 pm
I hate when miserable people want to spread their mean mess around. Not cool. Sorry you had to deal with such a pointless person on such a hard day.
December 5th, 2012 at 7:01 pm
I’m so sorry that you’re going through a loss like that…again. I wish we didn’t have to run into people like this so often…I don’t understand the need for attitudes like that. I just try to tell myself that yes, maybe they’re having an even worse day and wouldn’t normally behave in such a manner. You have my thoughts with you through the pain that you’re dealing with right now.
December 5th, 2012 at 7:39 pm
I’m sorry for your loss.
Anytime I see someone making a stink about boarding, I like to remind them that we will all depart and arrive at exactly the same time, so they need to chill out and be patient. Their seat will still be there waiting for them regardless of how many people go in front on them.
December 5th, 2012 at 9:21 pm
I think if you weren’t experiencing the miscarriage, you would have just shaken this creep off and laughed at her. But you were in a highly emotional state and things like this just get under your skin. There’s always someone. It’s too bad that assaulting someone is crime. Because I would have bitch slapped her something silly!
December 5th, 2012 at 9:46 pm
I cannot it like this post. Not because I do not understand the need to break out a case of whoop-ass but because of your loss. I am sorry for your loss and wish you and yours well. Peace.
P.S. They need a “I -understand-and-though-this-sucks -we-are-with-you” button.
December 5th, 2012 at 10:52 pm
I’m very sorry.
It’s bad enough when people are being rude when you feel good, but when you are emotionally and physically drained from all you are going through – frankly, that really sucks. 
I know your post has reminded me to try to be intentionally kind to others because we don’t know what is going on. I am very sorry for your loss.
December 5th, 2012 at 11:29 pm
Really, being her should be punishment enough. I mean, you got a bad moment, but she gets a whole bad life.
December 6th, 2012 at 1:44 pm
Horrible, just horrible.
December 6th, 2012 at 2:08 pm
There was no reason for her to even be a bitch! Anyone with half a brain knows that A comes before B and B comes before C and that’s how you board. I mean, WTF? Now I want to punch this person in the face.
I’m sorry that a random horrible person made your already terrible day even worse.
December 6th, 2012 at 3:09 pm
That had to suck! I know you fly a lot for work and I fly all the time, so what the Fu(% is wrong with PEOPLE. They can’t wait to get their (usually large bottoms) on the plane AND then we land and they practically TRAMPLE over you to get off the plane. Here is the deal, who the Fu(% cares. The plane won’t take off until we are all on and it isn’t going anywhere once we land. MANNERS PEOPLE!! Oh, and if you WANT ON FIRST and OFF FIRST,PONY THE HELL UP AND PAY FIRST CLASS or suck it up and get in line, you know, like you learned in KINDERGARTEN.
Anyway,Nice of you to be polite, I bet you can tell I would have given that B a run for her money and she would have wished she would not have FUC%ED with me because she would have learned airline boarding etiquette, or otherwise known to intelligent people, counting and listening and instructions.
Oh, and these are the reasons I tell my husband we should charter a plane and look into buying a private one. My husband says, “Lucy, you need to just play nice with others.”
December 6th, 2012 at 6:37 pm
Oh no, I’m sorry for your loss.
You are a much bigger person than me, I would not have handled that nearly as well. Under normal circumstances I’m very nice, but when people act stupidly…I usually let them know.
December 7th, 2012 at 1:33 am
Good for you, Thoughtsy. Better to get it off your chest than let it fester. And good for you, for taking the high road. I’m so sorry you had to go through that.
December 7th, 2012 at 6:54 am
The problem with people like that is, even if you’d let her go first to feel like an ass, she wouldn’t have got it. Her friend sounds as if she would have, but not the bitch herself. She would have felt entitled. Ugh.
December 10th, 2012 at 12:09 am
I am so sorry for your loss. That’s incredible. Not everyone understands how to be nice no matter what the circumstances are.
December 11th, 2012 at 2:50 pm
No one ever realizes that other people go through their same issues and same problems – it’s always about themselves.. Next time – deck the broad.
December 11th, 2012 at 10:17 pm
So sorry for your loss! when things like this happen to me (althoguh I’ll freely admit it’s never been on this scale) I like to imagine how bummed out the person would feel if they knew what was going on while they were being an a-hole.